I think that, today, I chased a girl. I knew that I was doing it, and I simply didn't have access to my ability to avoid it. I felt that it made me weaker, and her stronger.
Now, I am one of those guys who have lapped up the dogma that you should never ever chase; that you should never ever let her control the frame; that you have to be the leader.
And to some degree, I do agree. It is just better to come from a place of strength. There is the danger of coming off needy.
But on the other hand, I think that learning, and making mistakes, is far more important than adhering to rules. If you don't go there, if you don't do all the things that are considered "wrong" by PUAs, chances are you'll never get anything done. You don't learn how to ride a horse if you never risk falling off. You don't learn to ride a bike either. Or... well, you get my drift.
The bottom line is: better to do it all the wrong way than not to do anything at all. After all, I had a charming, entertaining, delightful conversation with a girl that I had only just approached in the subway. I spent about half an hour with her before we parted ways.
And that, as far as I'm aware, is about the same amount of time with a perfect stranger -- who also happens to be an attractive woman -- as most guys get in a year or so. So really, what's not to love?
